Lojong Cards and Booklet

Lojong Cards and Booklet
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Monday, February 27, 2017

Don't expect applause.

Wolf | Gray wolf growl
Photo from Living with Wolves

          For social animals like wolves, communication among the group is vital in reinforcing bonds, maintaining stability and coordinating action. Body language - posture, facial expression, ear and tail position - are one way these animals express their intent and expectation non-verbally. Vocalizations may include barks, yips, whines, growls and whimpers; each sound is effective in sending important information and keeping the community united. Since smell is one of the wolf's most acute senses, scat and urine are used as identification and boundary markers. Humans too rely on communication; even one-year-olds can recognize facial expressions of approval or disapproval. This pressing need to earn the good opinion and applause from others often follows us into adulthood, usually to our disadvantage. As we train and practice on our spiritual path, we may look to others for positive feedback. Yet this compulsion is nearly always a distraction and rarely an aid. The Buddha reminded his followers that they were capable of perceiving for themselves whether a teaching was beneficial and true by simply putting it into practice. Our own experience will provide all the feedback we need.

What further reward is there beyond finding that our actions are gratifying, meaningful, and purposeful in themselves? ~ Traleg Kyabgon

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  1. What a wonderful post. You are very right...we often look to others for positive feedback because we crave validation from outside sources. I am definitely trying to focus on the experience and the path rather than the opinions of others.

    1. It is a very human characteristic to want approval, but it doesn't always serve us well. :)